Sunday, August 18, 2013

Skin Deep with John Ritter

The all-knowing "they" say it's wrong to speak ill of the dead, but what about simply speaking the truth? If the truth (which is often stranger than fiction) happens to reveal illicit and unflattering information, should it be suppressed simply because the offender is deceased? 

It is in that spirit I recount the following sordid encounter with John Ritter, not for its salacious aspects, but as a seeker and speaker of truth. I relay these facts with no disrespect intended, based solely on my recollection and perspective.

Prior to marrying Amy Yasbeck, when John was married to Nancy Morgan (his first wife), it was well-known in certain circles that this beloved family man was a womanizing lech. This statement is not based on rumor, but through personal experience. Hey, why do you think his performance in "Skin Deep" was so good?

It was the mid-1990s, and I was out for a drink at Stanley's (a now defunct bar in Sherman Oaks). John had brought his brother Tom in for an impromptu mini-bachelor party, since Tom was getting married that weekend. John started to flirt with me and invited me to sit at their table. At one point, he leaned in as if to whisper something in my ear. I leaned in to hear what he had to say... and the creep stuck his tongue in my ear and started licking. 

I was disgusted and mortified, I didn't know how to handle that moment. I mean, what do you do? Slap John Ritter? Throw a drink on him? I just pulled away uncomfortably and pretended it didn't happen. As the night wore on, he became more drunk, and more lecherous... groping me. Believe me, I was not flattered. It shattered my illusion that he was the "nice guy" as painted in the media. Here was this married man, father of three kids, who was drunk in a bar sticking his tongue in a young woman's ear.

The party wore down. We all went outside and said goodnight. I drove home to my apartment. About 10 minutes later, my buzzer rang and it was John! He had followed me home. How awkward... I told him that, while I was flattered, I would never compromise my morals to be with a married man, famous or not. He was impressed that I turned him down, and we sat and talked until he sobered up enough to drive. John  scribbled his name and phone number for "Hearts Afire" on a memo pad, and offered to get me a job on the show. (I never did take him up on that.)

As he was leaving, I mentioned that Tom had invited me to the weekend's dinner at the Bombay Bicycle Club in Burbank, and said that if John felt awkward, I wouldn't attend. He insisted that I should go, and I did. It was rather brazen of me at the time to sit with a group of people that included John and his wife Nancy. Three was definitely a crowd that evening.

Ah well, I can add the experience to the list of strange celebrity encounters I've had through the years while living in Los Angeles. Yes, there were others, and perhaps I'll get around to writing a book or blogging about them as well. Should I have shtupped John Ritter? Nah.

Pro-Choice is not Anti-Life

I'm going to venture onto a limb and delve into a topic that is always divisive and controversial, yet a dialogue must be had. ABORTION. There, I wrote it. In all caps so you can't ignore it. A word that many people consider even worse than vagina or uterus. And with the word - Abortion - also comes the always-in-danger-of-being-revoked "Right to Choose."

Abolition of a woman's right to abortion, when and if she wants it, amounts to compulsory maternity: a form of rape by the State.

Edward Abbey
Having choices is part of being human, free will, and all that. And with a woman's right of choice related to her own body, there are consequences, but they are individual consequences, not collective consequences that affect society. Therefore, society should not have the right to impose manmade morality on the individual.

Now this particular post was motivated by a comment made by a woman named Kristen on a Facebook wall. There's a group called Lady Liberals, and they were brave enough to put this poster on their wall yesterday which, of course, incited conversation and debate, not all of it respectful. It varied from the logical to the irrational, emotional responses of those whose opinions are colored by what they claim are religious beliefs.

I am always amazed by these religious people who are ready to cast stones and cite biblical references to support their position, but their use of the bible is selective. They pick and choose a concept that suits their purpose. In this case, a woman wrote an inflammatory comment that people who have abortions will go to hell and abortion is murder.

This same woman forgets that her book of choice says, "Judge not lest ye be judged." Even when you've walked in a cheaper version of someone else's shoes, you never really know what they're going through, and it's wrong to assume that women who have abortions are gleeful about it.

There's a lot of self-recrimination, regret, and wondering how one's life may have turned out another way were it not for that choice made out of necessity or desperation or fear or self-preservation or whatever.

There is this myth that women who have abortions somehow got pregnant by being irresponsible with birth control. While this may be true in some instances, it it not always true. In addition to women who got pregnant as a result of rape or incest, there are many women who are on birth control but fate steps in and they become a statistic.

Did you know that the pill is not 100% effective? Sure you claim to know that, but how good are you at math and statistics? Do you really understand what that means?

http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/contraception.htm

"The pill is 91–99% effective at preventing pregnancy."

Absorb that sentence please. That means out of 100 women, at least 1 will get pregnant, even on the pill. And up to 9 out of 100 could get pregnant.

"Male condoms are 82–98% effective at preventing pregnancy." Of course, condoms will help prevent STDs, but they're not foolproof either.

Combining the pill and a condom may improve the odds against you, but it still won't give you a 100% guarantee that you won't get pregnant. Only abstinence will guarantee that. So every woman, even the ones who are responsible with birth control, run the risk of getting pregnant when they have sex. I'll say it again. Every woman runs the risk of getting pregnant when they have sex, even when they use birth control responsibly.

Think an unwanted pregnancy can't happen to you? Think again.

"No woman has an abortion for fun."
Elizabeth Joan Smith

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